Peace Without Privilege

Aug 31 2014

I knew the card was motivational sap, but I bought it. When I got home with the groceries, my husband found it between the napkins and a box of detergent. “Who’s this for?” “I thought we could send it to Anna,” I continued apologetically, “I wish it used the words success and failure instead, but I was drawn to the idea of persistence.”

“You can send it to her if you want to,” he said with a smile, which meant he wouldn’t sign it. It’s been sitting here on the raised kitchen counter, staring at me for the last two days:

A winner is just a loser who tried one more time.

Putting additional pressure on a kid who’s just started college is absurd. Even though Anna knows we don’t frame success as competition and we don’t expect straight As, this tidy little aphorism reinforces a cultural deception, a delusion that there are two kinds of people in this world and you, too, ladies and gents, girls and boys, can be a winner! It’s about YOU and how hard you’re willing to work.

How American. But, no, it’s not even that inclusive. It’s Caucasian American, as long as you’re not too different (e.g., LGBTQ, disabled, disfigured, disproportionate in height or weight to media standards).

Instead of throwing the card away or striking through 'a winner' and 'a loser' and scribbling in success and failure (which doesn't work on any level), I stare at it and decide there's something still valuable behind the flawed nouns: Trying. To keep on keeping on. The question then becomes, “What’s worth trying for?”

Early Giving

Feb 11 2014

Instead of waiting to hand out 600 or more valentines on Friday the 14th, I decided to spread our 14 Words For Love throughout the week. Some of you have asked me about distribution (is there a plan? is there a certain way to give out poems?)... all good questions whose answers are all about what works for you. Yesterday I dropped off a batch of 14-word valentines for my friend Sheila, who sends cards to soldiers all year long. While I was out, I dropped off a handful at my local P.O. along with bakery treats (Lloyd, Rosemary and Angela are the BEST). Then I drove to WUNC radio where Gurnal Scott buzzed me in to drop off 30-40 valentines for the staff. Today, I'll drop some by a local hospital.

Big Thanks for Your Poems, Prose and Patience

Jan 29 2014

Our Valentine's Day event is off to a fantastic start, thanks to you!!

Already, dozens of you have signed up here and hundreds of you have posted poems on our "playground" on Facebook.

Because we are trying to improve this website, some of you have experienced problems either signing in or seeing your posts immediately. I'm pretty sure we've fixed all the problems, but don't hesitate to contact me at if you encounter any glitches!

Wanted: 14-words for Valentine's Day!

Jan 11 2014

14 Words For Love will be one year old on Jan. 29! The very holiday that inspired our first event is coming up!

You may post your 14-word poems and aphorisms here on Sat., Jan. 25 and through Feb. 14! If you're on Facebook, you can also post your poems on a new events page that will go live the same day -- Jan. 25. Everyone will be invited, as long as you "like" the community Facebook page or you are my Facebook friend.

What's the difference? Why would you post poems in two places? Well, first, it gives you a choice of what's more convenience for you. Not everyone is on Facebook or wants that platform. Second, only poems posted on this website: will be considered for 14 Words For Love's Premiere Anthology, to be published in 2014.

Resolving to Love Uncertainty

Jan 6 2014

For the last three months, I've tried to figure out how to make 14 Words For Love more successful. Of course, the question is how one defines success. At its core, the success of 14 Words For Love is participation. People of every age, politic, religion and identity expressing their humanity and hope for it in 14 words. Hatred, prejudice, shame and blame the only content off-limits. In early December, I started the daunting process of non-profit incorporation. Two days ago, I realized (or fooled myself into thinking) that establishing a structure around 14 Words For Love right now could be its undoing. Although the idea of soliciting tax-deductible donations and grants is attractive, 14 Words For Love's success won't depend on financials or IRS approval or board meetings. 14 Words For Love depends on involvement. Participation.


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Peace One Day is Sept 21!!

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Jeremy Gilley began Peace One Day 15 years ago and every year more and more countries, militias, armies and leaders in conflict-ridden areas around the globe are saying yes. Okay. One day disarmament. Communities and families are in accord: yes, one day no gangs, no abuse.